Aging Possibilities

Aging moonflower bloom lasts a single day

Aging: So cool everyone’s doing it! I love this message-button from the National Center to Reframe Aging. ALL OF US AGE, if we are fortunate to be alive. However, aging often is cast in a negative light and applied to people of a certain age.

Even when positive vibes are intended, an assumption is made that seasoned citizens are the ones who are aging. For example, September is “Healthy Aging Month” in the U.S. If you Google the suggested actions for the month, they refer to bodymind health of older adults: “…as we age, our minds and bodies change…Move more, sit less….” We might also apply such practical advice to precious children and grandchildren who sit glued to their digital devices.

It is positive that we now have a global focus upon improving the lot of older adults. The United Nations initiated a “Decade of Healthy Aging” (2021-2039) with The World Health Organization asked to take the lead in proactive initiatives for older adults and their families.

My proactive initiative for inspiration for your own aging is to read journalist David Von Drehle’s The Book of Charlie: Wisdom from the Remarkable American Life of a 109-year-old Man. Von Drehle intended to write a legacy book for his children that might unlock fountain-of-youth secrets through perpetual thick-and-thin times. What he uncovered in the life story of his centenarian neighbor is part history and part parable about possibilities in life.

Dr. Charlie White always made the most of possibilities in his 100+ years: “He had a gift for seizing joy, grabbing opportunities, and holding on to things that matter. And he had an unusual knack for an even more difficult task: letting go of all the rest.” If you read no further than this gem on page 12, you will gain perspective. Yes, treasure the gift of joy over and over! This might be useful as a mantra for longevity. And add this follow-up mantra — live more in the present moment when you let go of what cannot be changed in your past.

Von Drehle always found a take-away thought or two after visiting Charlie: “…his past was a forward-looking place.” When Charlie had no money for college and medical school, he bought a used tenor saxophone from a friend and taught himself how to play with this wisdom: “When you don’t have income, you create.” Not only did he improvise with a small band to make ends meet, he improvised in his house visits to sick patients when he had to think outside of his black doctor bag.

Ageism stereotypes people and hampers possibilities. Let’s follow Charlie advice: “Think freely. Practice patience. Smile often. Savor special moments. Feel deeply. Observe miracles. Make them happen. Be soft sometimes. Cry when you need to. Make some mistakes. Learn from them.”

Pearls of Peace (PoP) Quiz

219. When is the last time you recognized joy in your life?

220. How might letting go of the past increase your life wisdom?    

Pearls of Labor

“We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.” Maya Angelou’s words are poignant, as change is our future.

Recently I spotted a caterpillar with its fashion-worthy spots lining a growing tummy being towed with 6 hands/feet and clinging to a slender stalk of parsley on my deck. I discovered that caterpillars have two kinds of “legs.” The “true” ones near the head are 6 segmented legs with claws, like hands and feet combined. Secondary “prolegs” (about 8) are extra insect-mover appendages that bump along from a midsection. The change from a dull round egg to colorful caterpillar (larva) stage is stunning! Even more amazing is the transformation of covered-up chrysalis (pupa) overcoat to flash into butterfly adulthood!

Watching the labor of this butterfly-in-the-making reminded me of Eric Carle’s picture book (The Very Hungry Caterpillar) which has spots on my book’s cover, a bit worse for the wear from my toddler children years ago. To my surprise, I later discovered 4 more caterpillars picnicking in parsley. All 5 caterpillars were devouring my curly parsley, so I turned to my flat leaf parsley for my own munching. The caterpillar tribe is finishing off their food supply. I wonder how the delicate littlest one will survive to labor onward.

We celebrate Labor Day today to pay tribute to U.S. workers and their important contributions to all of us. How often do we overlook the multitude of hands/feet that it takes to put food on our tables and to juggle a myriad of other necessary jobs for our wellbeing? Are we paying workers enough for their survival? What changes are needed in our workforce?

The U.S. Senate passed a resolution in 2022 naming September as Workforce Development Month. For 2023, a focus word was chosen – “seamless,” as in creating recruitment/training/employment opportunities in a seamless manner for those looking for work. Innovation grants in New York and Pennsylvania are encouraging local organizations  to form coordinated training opportunities for new immigrants.

It often takes many changes for people to find meaningful employment. A suggested way to streamline a successful ready-to-work process is through offering apprenticeships. In Germany students from 9th grade onward are offered apprenticeships to prepare them for productive careers.

An apprenticeship approach fosters more than skill development. It has the potential to teach life-skills such as time management and goal-directed persistence. Chicago-based parenting support center New Moms, for moms 24 years-old or younger, delivers workforce development with candle-making at Bright Endeavors (see Pearls of Peace blogpost, “Birds, Bees, and Babies”).

Consider these worker statistics:

  • 65% of employees in the U.S. are satisfied with their job.
  • However, only 20% of employees in the U.S. are passionate about their job.

Clearly, we could use some invigorating workplace changes and more passionate employees.

Pearls of Peace (PoP) Quiz

217. What is your most invigorating job in your work history?

218. How might you contribute to Workforce Development this month? 

Nature’s Beauties and Beasts

Ring around the rosie / A pocket full of posies / Ashes, ashes / We all fall down. How many readers recall childhood days of singing this simple “nursery” rhyme, followed by pretend-falling and a gaggle of giggles? I do not recall my two brothers ever engaging in Kate Greenway’s Mother Goose (1881) ring-singing, but I remember being a fun-loving and innocent participant. No one mentioned that this ditty may tell the sad story of the Black Plague beast which killed one-fifth of London’s population, or about 75,000 individuals, in 1665.  

This interpretation of the British rhyme is scary, but historical. The “ring of rosie” represented the deadly rashes of bubonic plague; the “posies” were a supposed prevention. The final two lines refer to death. However, some folklore experts deny such explanations, preferring to endorse happier themes. One argument against the Plague version suggests that when children jump back up after singing the rhyme, there is no foreshadowing of death.  

When rhymes (and misinformation) pass by word of mouth before any versions receive verification, wording and meaning changes run rampant. Nursery rhymes initially were used for children’s reading phonological awareness, not history lessons. Memorizing rhymes aids in reading fluency and memory building, among other learning skills. Nursery rhyming is fun, an educational ingredient we sometimes forget.

Of course, real life is not always fun. Adults know this. However, as Swiss psychologist Jean Piaget reminded adults, “Education, for most people, means trying to lead the child to resemble the typical adult of his (her, or their) society… but for me…education means making creators…you have to make inventors, innovators, not conformists.”

How can we better educate precious children to be creative, innovative, and yet understand life’s complexities? We cannot shield kids from learning about ring-around-the-rosie plagues, pandemics, or beastly wildfires in Canada, Greece, and Maui. When I see the charred remains of cars reduced to ashes — trying to rescue beloved adults, children and pets in Maui — I cringe. This is tough stuff that calls for educating both adults and children to be innovators in fixing our climate and maintaining sustainable resources.

Piaget’s wise words are helpful: “The principal goal of education should be creating men and women who are capable of doing new things, not simply repeating what other generations have done.” We simply must address reality as a first step. No, climate change is not a hoax. Tropical Storm Idalia with sustained winds of 65 mph has the current potential to turn into hurricane winds reaching 74+ mph tomorrow; projections are for a curving storm center to head into Florida’s west coast.

We must acknowledge the beasts among the posies or beauties of nature. Innovators can identify positive resources and share creative solutions across countries. We need a ring-around-the-planet approach.   

What is your new rhyme for children?  

Pearls of Peace (PoP) Quiz

215. When are you most innovative?

216. How might you contribute to some child’s creativity?   

Holding Onto Ageism

This summer I went back to graduate school. One might assume that 5 years of graduate school was quite enough (it definitely was, once upon a time). This time I was part of a social work graduate level class where volunteer older adults met with social work students in small groups after completing in-class autobiographical writing assignments. I am not sure who learned most in this intergenerational pairing. The writing was revealing, but the neglected need to tackle ageism in U.S. culture likely was our most important outcome.

The encore “students” displayed vibrant energy in expressing their views; no shrinking violets volunteered to go back to school. When looking backwards at one’s life experiences, there is perspective to be gained. Each of us has important history and relationship lessons to learn when paying attention to clinging decades of life education in the School of Hard Knocks. It is impossible to escape a variety of knock-‘em-up times — if you are lucky enough to live a long life.

Septuagenarians (ages 70-79), octogenarians (ages 80-89), nonagenarians (ages 90-99), and centenarians (ages 100-109) are revered in many cultures. When Becca Levy, psychologist, epidemiologist and professor at the Yale School of Public Health, spent a semester in Japan, she was amazed to see how differently older adults were treated there. She discovered that centenarians were celebrated as rock stars.

Older adults in America are too often assessed with less than positive attributes. Why do we snicker at stereotypical labels: old farts, geezers, gaffers, codgers, silver tsunami, gray wave, women of a certain age, or “over-the-hill” when milestone birthdays are reached? Birthday cards for encore years are raunchy with oddly positioned and/or tattered-looking individuals holding onto life. A revamp of social portrayals of older adults is overdue.

Showing up in ways to connect intergenerationally is just one solution in combating ageism. Consider attitude-shifting in singer songwriter Bob Dylan’s lyrics from Dear Landlord: “If you don’t underestimate me / I won’t underestimate you.” 

Junior citizens may underestimate seasoned citizens because of a negative experience with one or more older adults. Once a bias is formed it is difficult to break down one’s barriers to prejudice and stereotyping. According to Levy (Breaking the Age Code), unconscious ageism is “everywhere,” and starts as young as age 3.

Some individuals are groomed to become adept at putting down themselves. Levy’s 2-decade longevity study of Ohio residents (ages 50+) pinpoints how damaging it is for older adults to hold onto negative beliefs about aging; the median survival rate was 7 ½ years longer for those with the most positive attitudes about aging!  

All of us might adopt age affirmations that Dylan offers in this gem (Forever Young): “May your hands always be busy / May your feet always be swift / May you have a strong foundation / When the winds of changes shift.”

Pearls of Peace (PoP) Quiz

213. When have you experienced ageism?

214. What might you do to combat ageism in your community?    

Eyes as Prized Pearls

“Keep your eyes on the prize,” a poignant saying suggests, but what is the prize? The origin of the phrase is attributed to civil rights activist Alice Wine’s lyrics for her hymn, “Keep Your Hand on the Plow” (1956). A documentary (aired in 1987) re-invigorated the song’s message to instill motivation in African Americans working for the prized gem of equal rights.

Decades later, we still need to keep eyes on the prize of equality for ALL. But what about those who have tunnel vision?

The red brittle star, cousin of the starfish, sea urchin, and sea cucumber, contends with underwater tunnels but has no eyes. However, unlike the emperor who has no clothes, the brittle star is clothed in “eyesight!” Light-sensing cells or photoreceptors cover its body and pigment cells. Unbelievably, brittle stars can escape predators deep in the ocean due to their entire skeleton containing about 10,000 spherically domed crystals that operate as vison.

Furthermore, if an imminent attacker approaches, the brittle star breaks off the body part close to the predator and regrows it. In addition, the brittle star is a colorful character, as it makes color changes to correspond to available light in surroundings. From its reddish-brown daytime hiding color, the brittle star turns beige in nighttime foraging for food.

All of this action arises from a diffuse nervous system, but without a head or brain. An international team of scientists (physicists, chemists, and biologists) consider the genius of the red brittle star. The structure of its all-eyes-on-deck sight is studied as a prototype for tiny lenses for use in computer technology.

Mental tunnel “vision” in humans refers to a narrowing of one’s focus to a single point of view. The “tunnel” is a loss of an all-sides peripheral vision – even common sense may go unnoticed. Warning signals are also overlooked. While anxiety (leading to flight-fight-freeze mode) is often the reason for one’s psychological tunnel vision, other emotional states such as anger, frustration, or depression also limit one’s ability to evaluate incoming information. Consider the Gambian proverb: “If your only tool is a hammer, you will see every problem as a nail.”

A result of tunnel vision is that one is simply unaware of what they are not “seeing.” Furthermore, a person with such blockages is rigid, tending to become irritated with anyone who is an interrupter of their particular focus.

The first step in locating ANY part of behavior in oneself is to take a few long, slow breaths. Often, the tunnel-vision trait is accompanied by rapid breathing alongside an indignant stance, as in “Duh…you don’t get it!” However, it is not possible to change anyone else’s colorful character; we are responsible for our own changes.

Let’s look for “available light” in our present surroundings. Can we make our light-sensing pearls as active as those of the red brittle star?

Pearls of Peace (PoP) Quiz

211. When do you catch yourself having tunnel vision?

212. What steps might you take to broaden your focus?      

Pearls and Power

Original pearls have parents; they are the only gems that grew within living creatures. OK, it may be a stretch to believe the oyster or mussel nest is “parenting,” but there are all kinds of parenting. What about cuckoo birds who lay their eggs in another bird’s nest and fly off? Yes, no, or maybe, is the cuckoo a parent?

Deception is one of the common cuckoo bird’s traits. Posing as a threat, the opportunist female cuckoo mimics a predator (like a sparrowhawk) to enter another bird’s nest for her egg dump. This cuckoo treachery involves over 100 different unsuspecting birds that includes warblers, pipits, robins and dunnocks.

Little cuckoo birdies do not fall far from family-tree values. They are pushy with their foster siblings, forcing them to fall out of the nest window. Cuckoo chicks are known bullies. By getting rid of either a foster parent’s eggs or babes, there is a roomier nest and more bird power (including food supplies) for themselves.

We can find deception throughout human history, both in and out of the nest. Consider the fake news propaganda of Roman Octavian who wanted to defeat Cleopatra, the famous female pharaoh of Egypt, and Mark Antony, his Roman rival. The backstory is important; Mark Antony abandoned his wife, who happened to be Octavian’s sister, and was involved romantically with Cleopatra, having 3 children with her. Cleopatra already had a son with Julius Caesar, Caesarion or “Little Caesar” who looked like Caesar, but reportedly the famous father refused to acknowledge his only biological child.

Cleopatra lived in Rome for 2 years with Caesar and young Caesarion, but she returned to Egypt when Caesar was assassinated. Just when you think this complicated nesting could not be more confusing, Octavian was Caesar’s adopted son.

While Octavian and Antony fought previous battles together, Octavian believed that Antony was engaged in a power grab for Rome. Octavian launched the naval Battle of Actium against the combined fleets of Cleopatra and Antony. Octavian was victorious and later assumed control of Egypt. One story is that the couple committed suicide after Cleopatra sent Caesarion to India for safety. Another story declares the lovers were murdered. Anyway, Caesarion was lured home and murdered. The Roman Senate bestowed the title of Augustus (meaning “revered”) upon Octavian.  

Although there are scant surviving documents about Cleopatra, she was a break-the-glass-pyramid powerful gal, thought to speak as many as a half-dozen languages including Egyptian although she was not Egyptian, but a Macedonian Greek. In one surviving papyrus dated 35 BCE, Cleopatra was described as Philopatris, “she who loves her country.” During Cleopatra’s rule, she increased trade routes to Arabia which contributed to Egyptian wealth and is credited with reforming Egypt’s monetary system.

Back in Rome, Cleopatra’s hairstyles and pearl jewelry were revered and became fashion trends.

Pearls of Peace (PoP) Quiz

209. Have you encountered deceptions in your family tree?

210. What actions can you take to combat deception?

Self-transcend: A Hidden Pearl

Dragons, Flaming Pearls, and Cloud Scrolls (1368-1644), Art Institute of Chicago

How do you get yourself to do ANYTHING? Are you like a Ming dynasty dragon flying through clouds to chase pearls?

In school we learned psychiatrist Abraham Maslow’s “hierarchy” of needs (1943 paper, A Theory of Motivation): physiological needs/safety needs/love and belonging/esteem/self-actualization. After a few years of psychology practice, I took exception to Maslow’s linear line-up as well as his assertion that “self-actualization” occurred rarely, and only to a famous few — Albert Einstein, Eleanor Roosevelt, Jane Adams, William James, Albert Schweitzer, Aldous Huxley, Benedict de Spinoza, Abraham Lincoln (in his last years), and Thomas Jefferson.

Without naming them, Maslow pondered a list of his contemporaries for “partial cases” of self-actualization. Were these individuals also predominantly men? What about kids who often seem more self-actualized than the adults in their world? Could Greta Thunberg be recognized for “partial” self-actualization?

Maslow silently amended his model of needs (in notes in his journal which were published after his death in 1970), as his thinking was challenged by his friend, Austrian psychiatrist Viktor Frankl. This revelation is explained by Frankl’s grandson, documentary filmmaker and psychotherapist Alexander Vesely: Abraham Maslow, in his ‘hierarchy of needs,’ said that once basic needs (food, shelter) are met, then the intangibles such as love, meaning, and self-actualization can be fulfilled. But my grandfather disagreed. He told Maslow how people did not have their ‘basic’ needs met in the concentration camps, but it was the ‘higher’ needs (i.e., meanings, love, and values) that proved to be much more relevant to their chance of survival. Maslow revised his ideas and said, ‘Frankl is right.’ My grandfather emphasized that it’s not about ‘having what you need to live’ but asking yourself, ‘What am I living for?’ The most affluent societies have all their basic needs met, but they lack something to live for….”

No longer hidden, “self-transcendence” is the pinnacle of Maslow’s basic needs. To self-transcend one finds meaning beyond self-fulfillment; to be fully human, one has integrity and takes responsibility for something “larger” than one’s own ability potential, as in altruistic actions.

All of us may be somewhere on the “partial” continuum of actualizing our potential, but where is our self-transcendent behavior evident? No one really knows what travails and trauma another individual may have encountered that led to their less-than-transcendent actions. The Chinese portrayal of a sharply clawed dragon chasing a “flaming pearl” is a poignant image. Each person struggles in particular ways to meet their continuously flowing and concurrent basic needs that often appear elusive.

Viktor Frankl’s keen understanding of human nature still reverberates today. Frankl believed that there’s a Hitler and a Mother Theresa in everyone; it is up to each of us to decide which of the two we will become. Beyond self-actualization, true happiness relates to finding purpose and meaning in life — the hidden pearl of self-transcendence.

Pearls of Peace (PoP) Quiz

207. Where do you find “larger” meaning in your life today?

208. How might you engage in an altruistic action today?     

Blog Birthday #2 on International Self-Care Day

Do coyotes need International Self-Care Day? As I watched a pack of coyotes frolic the last time I visited Arizona, I admired their frisky playfulness with one another. From a second-floor balcony, I watched them cavort and tumble over one another with complete abandon. It looked fun! Coyotes do not have to sign up for a class on improvisational yips, yelps, whines or howls. They are considered as extremely adaptable mammals (they eat almost anything) and are faster than humans, running 35-43 mph when chasing food (the fastest man runs 23.35 mph). Are coyotes also smarter than people? Every day is a self-care day for coyotes.

I have never had more than one occasional coyote in my own yard. My neighbor watched a coyote chasing a rabbit in my front yard. He labeled it his Serengeti experience. During winter, I found coyote tracks into my lilac thicket where a rabbit community nest exists. Another day I encountered a coyote in my back yard. We each stopped in our tracks. We stared at each other, as if to inquire, “What are you doing in MY yard?” I noticed Sir/Madam Coyote was well groomed.

Humans seem to require reminders about self-care for themselves as well as for others. Different entities have declared a National Self-Care day (created in 2010 for April 5th,), and even National Self-Care Month (first recognized in 2017 for the month of September). However, International Self-Care Day is TODAY, July 24th. The World Health Organization in 2011 chose the 24th day to symbolize self-care “24 hours a day/7 days a week” with the U.S. Senate endorsing the July 24th concept in 2014. This international version developed this year’s theme of “resilience, adaptability, and thriving in adversity” — all traits that coyotes seem to embody fully.

Human self-care means much more than a healthy diet with mindfulness and exercise practices. Some individuals are more challenged with self-care than others when institutional and interpersonal discrimination affects them 24/7. Civil Rights activist Audre Lorde explained: “Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare.”

An article in the New Yorker describes commercialized “Self-Care Planners” and self-care temporary tattoos — shaped like Band-Aids with such messages as “This too shall pass,” and “I am enough.” On this International Self-Care Day, let’s consider how the U.S. might provide affordable healthcare that includes equitable services for mental health along with physical health.

“Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes, including you,” quipped writer Anne Lamont. Time-out, taking pauses for playtime, is self-care, but we also need bigger and lasting Band-Aids.

FYI, coyotes are considered to be a good omen by many First Nation people. Coyotes are believed to be spirit animals. Aren’t all humans spirit animals too?

Pearls of Peace (PoP) Quiz

205. What actions will you take in your own self-care today?

206. Does this weekly blog offer you any ideas for supporting the self-care of yourself and others?            

Birds, Bees, and Babies

Honey Vanilla candle, New Moms (www.brightendeavors.org)

Nora Prior, PhD Senior Research Associate, Psychology Department at Cornell University, studies songbirds. The Australian Zebra finch is monogamous. Dad finch works cooperatively in parent partnering. Birdbrain couples closely coordinate their parenting actions through communicating vocal harmonies.

Contrast this bird behavior with bee behavior. Male bees are lusty, but not trusty fellows (One Earth Film Fest).  A male bee jumps a female’s back and pins down her wings so that she cannot fly off. Initially, the young male “…jumps on anything, even bees of a different species. He improves with practice!” Drones (male bees), are about 10% of a bee colony and do no work; their life consists of eating honey and mating.

And humans? Current statistics are that 40% of the U.S. births occur to unmarried women. This is more than double the number in 1980 (18%). Reportedly, there are 13.6 million single parents raising 21 million children in the U.S. today; 80% of these single-parent caregivers are women. Where are the fathers?

The 7-10-23 Washington Post article, “Men are Lost. Here’s a Map Out of the Wilderness” by columnist Christine Emba, underscores the uncertain identity roles of men currently. Emba met and talked with men around the country. While many were taught a traditional male-as-provider role, the reality is that many feel left behind with declining male earnings and females appearing stronger in earning power. There are only 74 men finishing a college degree for every 100 women. However, the real “missing out” factor may be that young men today are missing positive male role models.

O.K. Here’s hope! Parenting precious-as-pearls babies is more all-encompassing than singing lullabies, although singing is an important ingredient — even singing to a babe in the womb. Many young mothers find themselves in circumstances without physical and/or emotional support.

New Moms, a Chicago-based parenting support center for moms 24 years-old or younger, celebrates their 40-year anniversary this year. From lowly roots of handing out diapers to young moms from the trunk of Ellen Kogstad’s car, to moving into the impressive Transformation Center in the Austin neighborhood with 30 studio and 10 one-bedroom apartments to accommodate single moms needing housing, New Moms expanded into Oak Park, acquiring Parenthesis Family Center and creating housing for 18 additional families.

I recently participated in making candles with New Moms at Bright Endeavors where soy candles are made for individual or corporate gifts and Whole Foods’ distribution. The paid job-training site has young moms learning more than how to show up for work on time and pour hot wax efficiently. The candle factory hums with activity. Candle-making moms face a punch list of life-skill development: executive skills, organization, time management, planning and prioritization, goal directed persistence, working memory, task initiation, sustained attention, response inhibition, metacognition, emotional control, flexibility, and stress tolerance.

Every person needs a Hi-Ho-It’s-Off-to-Work-We-Go job where they learn this energizing skillset!    

Pearls of Peace (PoP) Quiz

203. What organizations for social betterment do you support?

204. How might you extend support to youthful parents?                 

Peace-promoting

Sunshine Coast, British Columbia, Canada

Columbia University’s Sustaining Peace Project studies Mauritius, the most peaceful nation in Africa. Different ethnic and religious groups with populations of Hindus (52%), Christians (28%) and Muslims (16%) practice democracy. A simple sign reinforces acceptance: “One Island. Many Peoples. All Mauritians.” The ethic of respect is an everyday/everywhere practice, from how daily news is reported, how teachers support their students, and notably, how politicians relate. Peacefulness is not taken for granted but is cultivated nationally.

A diverse group of scholars – psychologists, anthropologists, philosophers, astrophysicists, environmental scientists, political scientists, data scientists, communications experts – began meeting in 2014 to study cultures where peace was sustainable. They found non-warring social systems existing in the 5 Nordic countries who have lived peacefully with one another for 200+ years. Singapore, Switzerland, Costa Rica, Canada, Qatar, the Orang Asli of Malaysia, 10 Upper Xingu River basin communities of Brazil, the E.U. and Mauritius are further examples.

The scholars’ list of peace-promoting individual habits prescribes a model for healthy adulthood:

  • Motives: Endorsing self-transcendent values, an attitude of openness, a cooperative orientation, and peace beliefs;
  • Cognitions: Possessing strengths in moral reasoning, fluency of a language of peace, and embracing a global identity;
  • Affect: Demonstrating levels of empathy and compassion, hopefulness and positivity, and a trusting mindset;
  • Behavior: Exhibiting mindfulness and a willingness to compromise.

Moving to family and community, peace-promoting includes these variables:

  • A shared identity as a peaceful family/community with peace-enhancing ceremonies;
  • A belief in cooperative tasks, goals, and reward structures;
  • High levels of education and literacy, including early access to tolerance and multiculturalism in education;
  • An ability to promote superordinate identity groups as unified across differences;
  • Leaders who model peaceful values such as egalitarian values and norms;
  • Examples of peace language in media and a spirit of sharing a free flow of information.

As a point of interest, an astrophysicist set his mathematic genius to work during one weekend and made an algorithm of the peace variables. No worries, I am not going there in this blogpost, but just know that the interactions of the above characteristics change when a variable is “decreased.” Peace-promoting can encounter rocky shorelines.

Internationally we suffer from an Attention-to-peace Deficit Disorder in spite of the United Nations attempts to sustain a peaceful planet.

Perhaps the education piece of peace is where we might best focus efforts for world peace. As psychiatrist Erich Fromm (The Sane Society, 1955) asked: “Why should society feel responsible only for the education of children, and not for the education of all adults of every age?”

A song popularized by singer Vince Gill (and daughter Jenny) was written by husband-and-wife songwriters Jill Jackson Miller and Sy Miller (in 1955) with a message that still rings true today: “Let there be peace on earth, And let it begin with me. Let there be peace on earth, The peace that was meant to be….”   

Pearls of Peace (PoP) Quiz

201. What does peace-promoting mean in your own words?

202. What peaceful language can you use today?