Category: Trauma, Self-awareness, Inner peace

March is National Women’s History Month

Every age has “inside” wrinkles! Human brains are quite wrinkled; folds in the brain exist to enlarge a surface area of the cortex to increase brainpower within a small space. Peeking inside a human brain, you would see about 1/3 of its surface; 2/3 is enfolded in wrinkles. If you could spread out the wrinkles, the brain would be 2500 square centimeters, or the size of a small tablecloth. There are more wrinkles in the front of the cortex (responsible for most abstract thinking).

However, our culture suffers from a fixed mindset about outward-facing wrinkles and aging in general. Physician and gerontologist Robert Butler coined the term “ageism” in 1969. In medical school he was shocked to hear of older patients referred to as “crocks” who were viewed as beyond  medical help. Raised by his grandparents, perhaps Butler had a head start in experiencing the competence of wrinkled adults.

While men also have wrinkles, it is women who seem to experience harsh judgment about  wrinkled faces and necks. Columnist Gail Collins points out: “We’ve expanded our vision of what women can do at any age–Ruth Bader Ginsburg working out with her personal trainer at 86 before a day at the Supreme Court…but that doesn’t mean our prejudice against growing older has been erased. If it had, the 7000 or so cosmetic surgeons in America would be way underemployed.”

Collins researched age discrimination against women throughout the decades; a 1929 study showed reluctance to hire older women or “…almost everybody who had failed to keep that fabled 19-year-old complexion.” In the U.S. in 2023 the market size of cosmetic/beauty products is $48.8 billion.                                                                                                               The earliest known use of cosmetics was 6000-10,000 years ago in Egypt, although people did not live long enough to develop many facial wrinkles. Women surviving childhood had a life expectancy of 30 years and men, 34 years.

Egyptian make-up included incense oils for sun protection, but an elaborate use of eyeliner (for dramatic almond-shaped eyes), rouge for cheeks, and henna-stained nails were meant for beautification. Both men and women applied make-up as it was believed that Egyptian gods appreciated it. Perfumes also were popular and may have contained myrrh, thyme, marjoram, chamomile, lavender, peppermint, rosemary, cedar, rose, aloe, olive oil, and/or almond paste.

Wrinkles rattle people. Thinking he was delivering a high compliment, an 89-year-old man said to a much younger woman, “For a woman your age, you really don’t have very many wrinkles!” Phrases like “over the hill” are applied more frequently to women than men, although there are more hill-walking gals in their 80’s than men.

During the Vancouver Peace Summit in 2009, The Dalai Lama declared, “The world will be saved by the Western woman.” I do not think he was too concerned about whether such a woman had wrinkles. There are pearls inside wrinkles.

Pearls of Peace (PoP) Quiz                                      

167.What do you think when you see a person wearing wrinkles?   

                                                           168. In what ways can Western women “save” the world?     

Pre-school education relates to education for retirees. What, you ask? Yes, pre-school/kindergarten education is a lubricant for older ages, including education for the senior set.

You may know the book by minister Robert Fulghum, All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten. I recalled this book recently when I was a monitor at a symposium for day-care home providers and preschool/kindergarten teachers. I have been on the planning committee for this annual event for many years. It is a joy to spend a day with early childhood caretakers and teachers who have hearts of immeasurable gold (despite their lack of much gold in paychecks).

What are the pearls of learning for both ends of the life spectrum? Check out Fulghum’s wisdom (pages 6-7):

“Most of what I really need to know about how to live — and what to do and how to be, I learned in kindergarten. Wisdom was not at the top of the graduate school mountain, but there in the sandpile at Sunday school. These are the things I learned: Share everything. Play fair. Don’t hit people. Put things back where you found them. Clean up your own mess. Don’t take things that aren’t yours. Say you’re sorry when you hurt somebody. Wash your hands before you eat. Flush.”

“…live a balanced life. Learn some and think some. And draw and paint and sing and dance. And play and work every day some. Take a nap every afternoon. When you go out into the world, watch out for traffic. Hold hands and stick together. Be aware of wonder. Remember the little seed in the Styrofoam cup: the roots go down and the plant goes up and nobody really knows how or why, but we are all like that. Goldfish and hamsters and white mice and even the little seed in the Styrofoam cup—they all die. So do we. And then remember the Dick-and-Jane books and the first word you learned—the biggest word of all—LOOK. Everything you need to know is in there somewhere. The Golden Rule and love and basic sanitation. Ecology and politics and equality and sane living.”

Preschoolers initially need to learn to feel safe, find a sense of belonging, and explore their creativity. These are issues for individuals decades later in facing retirement years–feeling safe in one’s environment, sharing belongingness (with family, friends, and significant groups), as well as using precious time for exploring creative dreams.

I gave a talk at a public library recently where I found retirees who were eager to live lives of meaning but some felt stymied in reaching even basic goals. There is much loneliness and untapped talent among retirees.

The British government addressed social isolation in appointing its first Minister of Loneliness in 2018. Why is our ageist culture not more proactive in promoting purposeful retirement possibilities?

 Pearls of Peace (PoP) Quiz

165. How might you engage your creativity more?

166. What play and work do you choose every day?   

At the risk of no one reading beyond the second sentence, I have intriguing news for you. Your desire to be “comfortable” may hold you back from personal growth. Ouch. Keep reading.

Researchers Kaitlin Woolley (Marketing Professor, Cornell University) and Ayelet Fishbach (Managerial Psychology Professor, University of Chicago) engaged 2100 individuals in experiments of personal growth. Their “growth” topics included improv classes, journaling about emotions, COVID-19 learning, gun violence, and political opposition among folks.

While addressing their assigned topic, some individuals were instructed that their goal was to “feel uncomfortable” (perhaps awkward, nervous, anxious, or even upset). Furthermore, these participants were told to push past their comfort zone and embrace uncomfortable feelings as a signal that the activity was “working.” The control group received no instructions other than to focus on learning about their topic.

Fascinating results included that those told to accept discomfort were the more engaged participants! They displayed more motivation and believed they achieved more in their learning. They took in information from news sources that they would not otherwise read (either the New York Times or Fox News). Improv participants took more risks in performing on stage, while those in the journaling topic wrote more emotional diary entries.

Woolley and Fishbach concluded, “People should seek the discomfort inherent in growth as a sign of progress instead of avoiding it.” After years as a family therapist in private practice, I can vouch for hard-won benefits of working through discomfort – from giving birth to coping with grieving.

Consider research results on expressive writing with 50 senior engineers (average age of 52) who were laid off from a large computer company with no forewarning. Most had worked for their company for 30 years. Months later when the engineers had not found new employment, they were feeling bitter. Of those who were asked to write their deepest thoughts and emotions (for 30 minutes a day for 5 consecutive days) about being laid off , 27% of them landed new jobs within 3 months!

Less than 5 % of those in no-writing or time-management control groups found a job. And guess what…all participants went on the same number of job interviews!

Engineers’ emotional writing made a difference in addressing underlying hostility toward their former employer. As additional benefits, psychologist James Pennebaker and colleagues found that mindful writing had positive health effects; fewer stress-related visits to a physician, improved immune system functioning, reduced blood pressure, improved lung and liver functioning, fewer days spent in a hospital, improved mood, and a feeling of greater psychological wellbeing were results of the engineers’ heart-felt writing.

Remember that pearls are born from dubious details: an irritant– even a contrary food particle–becomes trapped in the parent mollusk’s shell. Irritation is apparent everywhere in our culture today. Our task is to name our discomfort and grow from it. Changes in life are fertilizer for new dreams.

Pearls of Peace (PoP) Quiz

163. What irritates you today?

164. How might you grow from any discomfort in your life?   

“…we can’t see at the level of a microscope. If we could, we would see that a human is not a single organism…[Each person] by definition is a community of 50 trillion cells, so I’m not a single thing, I’m a community.”

“Thought ‘energy’ can activate or inhibit the cell’s function-producing proteins via the mechanics of constructive and destructive interference.”

With thoughts like these, Bruce Lipton, cell biologist and research scientist, was honored in 2009 with the Japanese Goi Peace Award, an international award to recognize individuals/organizations who contribute to a peaceful world. His controversial research from his professor days at Stanford University is becoming more mainstream.

Lipton’s “new biology” suggests that one’s mind is capable of overriding genetic programming: “Thoughts, the mind’s energy, directly influence how the physical brain controls the body’s physiology.”

You do not have to be a cell biologist to put Lipton’s research findings to good use. Lipton urges us to ask questions about why we do what we do. On YouTube he elaborates with specific questions and partial answers:

• What are your “programs” for how you live your daily life?
• Where are you having trouble?
• Stop looking outside. The things that don’t work in your life relate to faulty “programs” you gathered in your first 7 years when you downloaded “programs” from your parents/teachers.
•  Basically, you operate from these “programs” (becoming habits) in your subconscious mind 95% of the time.
• Your subconscious mind resists change.
• If you want to change the subconscious mind, slow down your brain to a “lower vibration” (mindfulness practices, meditation, and psychotherapy are possible techniques).
• Your conscious mind is creative.
• Practice saying to yourself what you desire about yourself. Say it as if it already exists: “I am _____________.”

In case you want to take “new biology” to heart, this is the field of epigenetics — how one’s behavior and environmental factors can create changes that affect gene expression. One’s genetic code does not erase, but it is a possibility that you can change how your bodymind “reads” a DNA sequence.

Lipton explains: “… as we change our belief, we change our chemistry and then we change our culture medium and that’s what controls the cells. So we’re not victims, we are masters of our genes. By changing how we live, we change our genetics.”

We are talking about basic energy. I believe that energy is our first need to address every single day. Lipton’s research provides the science: “When molecules meet, they amplify the energy. In harmony, [it’s] “constructive interference” (good vibes)…or 2 energies may be “out of phase,” [with] “destructive interference” (bad vibes).”

What if everyone took Lipton’s research to heart? Would we still have wars, the epitome of bad vibes?

The Japanese awarded Lipton for his scientific contributions to world harmony. Apparently, the word did not get around (yet).

Pearls of Peace (PoP) Quiz

161. Are your ancestor “programs” burdens or blessings?

162. Do you experience mostly “bad vibes” or “good vibes”?       

Punxsutawney Phil/Phyllis, that rascal groundhog that reportedly saw his/her/their shadow on February 2^nd, gave us the Pennsylvania Dutch superstitious edict that there will be 6 more weeks of wintery weather. Nevermind, Phil/Phyllis is only “right” in predicting emerging spring 40% of the time. How “right” are you in assessing yourself? Do you have springtime energy or winter blues? Are you fixated on the shadows in your life?

Psychotherapist Katherine Morgan Schafler (The Perfectionist’s Guide to Losing Control: A Path to Peace and Power, 2023) is a former on-site therapist at Google. She asked her Google clients, “What if there’s nothing wrong with you?” This simple shift from the “let-me-figure-out-what’s-wrong-with you” perception is a game-changer.

Mental wellness is about accepting what is “right” within each of us; healing personality wounding does involve naming past shadows, but not submerging one’s thoughts and behavior to shadowland. I believe that mental wellness and trauma relief call for a steady diet of self-compassion. Schafler unpacks circular reasoning: “The best way to be more of who you are is to understand it’s already inside you. It’s there. It’s just that in order to get there, you have to stop being who you’re not. Stop trying to eradicate what’s ‘wrong’ with you. That’s never the solution…ask yourself: ‘What do I want?’”

Lasting change is a bit more complicated, but the gist of Schafler’s approach is on target. When we place most of our focus on “what’s wrong,” it is a path to pathologize or reduce our potential for possibilities. Schafler views a perfectionistic viewpoint as believing, “I’m broken.”

When we connect with an inner awareness of an already and always calm energy of self, soul, spirit (your choice of wording), we understand that we are not “broken.”

An online photo of “broken” pearls with burn scar shadows (after surviving a house fire) looks ominous; however, these pearls were restored to their natural beauty after cleaning and restringing. You might say that the inner pearl had remained intact.

In addition to representing concepts like love and wisdom, pearls are tough. They may incur scuffs and scratches, but they are not broken easily. In fact, pearls are among the most resistant gemstones to stress and strain; they can withstand immense external pressures without breaking.

If you are having groundhog days of same-old, same-old thinking, it is time to restring your thoughts. Are you going to believe a 40-percenter groundhog about the advent of spring energy? The birds are singing already. Superstitions are broken ideas. You already possess an inner springtime. Like pearls, you can withstand external pressures without breaking.

Stay curious. Acknowledge change as your constant companion. Groundhogs understand rhythms of change. They do not eat while hibernating for 3 months in winter. I’m guessing that groundhogs soon will be frisky for food and other pleasures.

Pearls of Peace (PoP) Quiz

159. What aspects of your personality could benefit from change?

160. When you change even one thought you have about yourself, does it lead to other changes?

Poet Marge Piercy captures the essence of worthwhile activities in To Be of Use: “…Hopi vases that held corn, / are put in museums / but you know they were made to be used. / The pitcher cries for water to carry / and a person for work that is real.” People thrive best when they feel useful, making small differences somewhere.

Today is the anniversary of Lois Whitacre Clark’s death. At age 99 ½ my lovely mother no longer felt useful, although she valiantly tried to leave her bed. When the pandemic kept her housebound for two years, she deteriorated both physically and cognitively. One could argue that her health decline was inevitable at her high-flyer age, but the shut-down contributed to Mom’s growing angst. Never one to swear, Mom called it the “pan-damn-ic.”

I asked Mom for the meaning of her symbol for life — a butterfly. She told me she needed time to reflect. She replied in an email:

“BUTTERFLY MEANING, you ask? Some words that come: unexpected; momentary brush with beauty; desire to see where it will light again; heart-warming; shear fragile strength; unbelievable endurance ability; capable; bonding influence; admiration; affection; attraction; attention; amaaaazing [yes, multiple a’s]; gossamer-winged; flitting; mesmerizing, fleeting, momentous, haunting, recalling…that’s all I have to say about THAT! NO ‘BOX OF CHO-CO-LATES’ right now!”  Sweet dreams, Mom

Mom actually described herself. She was a bonding-influence and heart-warming gal who possessed unbelievable endurance ability. In her vital days of working at Head Start (until age 76) and lifetime of volunteering in numerous community groups, Mom bonded with her whole community. Once she was awarded keys to her city, South Bend, Indiana; another year she was inducted into South Bend’s Community Hall of Fame. You can find her picture online – the gal wearing a butterfly pin.

Butterflies are amazing! Some are known to fly as high as 19, 685 feet. One group of high-flyer butterflies was noticed by fighter pilots! Mom was a high-flyer not only in age, but also in her actions to promote peace. Her hand-made display posters and peace signs were well used; her work was real, standing with beloved Michiana Peace & Justice Coalition friends for years in downtown South Bend every Monday evening during rush hour. One sign read, “Taxes for Schools, Not War.” Mom called these peaceful vigils “Moral Mondays.”

I was asked if I am “channeling” Mom in writing Pearls of Peace blogposts. My answer was, “Not really,” but when you consider that I somehow chose Monday as the day of the week to send weekly reflections into technology’s amazing “cloud,” it does seem Mom-like. I know that she appreciated my first blog in July, 2021.    

Let’s think beyond making small differences on “Moral Mondays.” We could use some peace the rest of the week too.

Pearls of Peace (PoP) Quiz

157. What is one heart-warming difference you might make today?

158. What world might we have if we string our small differences together?    

Rattlesnake Plant enfolds its brilliant leaves together at night but unfurls beauty every morning. The leaves-within-leaves plant reminds me of the hardy Hawaiian people. Although foreign takeover of their islands in 1983 attempted to separate Hawaiians from their sacred culture, there has been an ongoing momentum to unfurl genealogy stories and traditions orally. Ancestral land is revered in Hawaiʻi.

The U.S. government (who “annexed” their islands in 1898) wrote this description of Hawaiians: “…the Native Hawaiian people lived in a highly organized, self-sufficient subsistence social system based on a communal land tenure system with a sophisticated language, culture, and religion.” The communal, or ahupuaʻa system, featured land demarcations cascading from mountainous uplands to the ocean. Each section was enfolded into the next interdependent land division. Everyone had a  definitive role — to farm, fish, irrigate, heal, teach – and community bonding was strong.

Annabelle Le Jeune, an Asian American program outreach specialist for the Hawaiʻi nonprofit, Partners in Development Foundation, reports on current community bonding. With a tribute to local community leaders, the State of Hawaiʻi has reduced the state’s youth incarceration rate by 82%. In a similar disproportionate categorization of incarcerated individuals along racial/ethnic identities on the U.S. mainland, Native Hawaiians and Pacific Islanders are overrepresented in the Hawaiian juvenile justice system.

Keeping youth closed up and locked down does little to help them cope with issues of substance abuse, mental illness, family and generational trauma, and/or poverty. “Due to historical trauma that predates the illegal overthrow of the Hawaiian Kingdom, Indigenous people are more likely to experience poverty than their nonindigenous neighbors–and in their own homelands,” writes Le Jeune. “The island colonizers gained economic power through private land ownership, disrupting the connection and communal land system that the native people had with their ʻāina (land). Missionaries were also sent to Hawaiʻi to open boarding schools for children to reduce the Native Hawaiian language (‘Ōlelo Hawai‘i)…and promote Christian conversion.”

Hawaiian language and sacred cultural practices were forbidden both in schools and communities for nearly a century. Recently a cultural renaissance is opening and allowing the revival of the Native Hawaiian language. Passed by Congress and signed by President Bill Clinton in 1993, the U.S. apologized to Native Hawaiians for the overthrow of the Kingdom of Hawaiʻi (Public Law 103-15).

Systemic trauma is not reduced immediately with laws, but it is a good first step. We can address mistakes in our collective history. Politicians often are not given credit for righting seriously wrong behavior, however there is still much work ahead.

To reverse the ills of juvenile incarceration in Hawaiʻi, youth are returning to the land for work when released from the Hawai’i Youth Correctional Facility. After nearly 100 years, this facility has been rebranded as Kawailoa Youth and Family Wellness Center with a focus on pu‘uhonua (a place of healing).

Pearls of Peace (PoP) Quiz

155. When you consider your own schooling, what did you miss out on?

156. How might you address issues of our precious at-risk youth?     

Are you flourishing or floundering?

On January 1st I had several captive hours at an airport. I watched a lone duck swimming in circles in a courtyard pond. Was this duck flourishing in the sunlit zone or floundering somehow? Later the duck swam sideways, ditched repetitive circling, shook its feathers, and settled into cozy napping in the shade.

Mental Wellness Month is celebrated every year from January 1st to 31^st with an intent to highlight the importance of mental health. Instead of a typical focus on New Year resolutions that revolve around one’s physical wellbeing — such as weight loss or renewed exercise affirmations — this mental wellness focus is a flourishing recognition for every person, but it is particularly important for those challenged with mental health issues.

January can be a letdown. A Happy New Year may seem dubious. Loneliness is on the rise in the U.S., and it can lead to a host of bodymind (both physical and emotional) challenges. According to psychology research, the cause of loneliness is not being alone, but being without some definite needed relationship or set of relations. Loneliness is a main determinant of one’s social wellness.

The Global Wellness Institute (GWI) defines mental wellness as “an internal resource that helps us think, feel, connect, and function: it is an active process that helps us to build resilience, grow, and flourish.” The Institute’s goal is to empower wellness worldwide. This forward-thinking vision for systemic public health includes mobilizing government policymakers, public servants, and businesses to endorse everyday wellness. 

Here are GWI policy questions that cry out for answers:

• “When we are spending trillions of dollars on wellness, why do the rates of chronic disease and related health expenditures also continue to rise unsustainably?”
• “Why does wellness feel so white and rich and exclusive?”
• “What about those who don’t have the money or time to spend on wellness?”

On a community level, there are simple ways to celebrate Mental Health Awareness Month and support bodymind wellness. Local businesses can help employees to focus on wellbeing by providing “wellness gifts.” Examples are reusable water bottles, gift cards to health stores, stress balls, relaxation tools like a heated neck pillow, self-help books and gratitude journals.

I can attest to the flourishing momentum of maintaining a wellness gratitude journal, even while floundering. I kept a gratitude journal every day for a whole year on 3 different challenging years of my life (the year after my husband’s sudden death, the year after my father’s prolonged death, and a year while my mother was dying).

Every night before sleep I wrote 3 simple gratitudes in my journal for that day. During each day I would prompt myself to think of small turning points. At nighttime I not only had something to write about, but I put myself into a positive space for sleep without repetitive circling thoughts.    

Pearls of Peace (PoP) Quiz

153. What is your definition of flourishing?

154. How do you make peace with floundering times?                    

Four intertwined bronze arms — a 22-foot-tall sculpture memorializing Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. hugging his wife, Coretta Scott King – had an unveiling on Boston Common on 1-13-2023. Artist Hank Willis Thomas created The Embrace from the essence of a photograph showing the couple hugging after MLK won the Nobel Peace Prize in 1964.

At age 35 King was the youngest person to receive this honor for his staunch support of overcoming racism and poverty. He donated his $54,123 prize money to promote civil rights in 6 organizations, including the Gandhi Society for Human Rights. Just 4 years later King died from a gunshot wound after championing nonviolence in a manner modeled by his mentor, Mahatma Gandhi.

Boston was home to MLK when he met his future wife. While King was a doctoral candidate of systemic theology at Boston University (BU), creative Coretta Scott was completing her degree of opera studies at New England Conservatory of Music. They married in 1953 and MLK graduated from BU in 1955.   

I feel privileged to have education ties to MLK.

BU was home for my counseling psychology doctorate, although many years after King’s studies there. Our paths did cross when I was in college. In King’s final campus speech before his untimely death, I heard him speak at Manchester College (now Manchester University) in Indiana. I still recall the experience of King, especially his resolute voice with a passion for peace and justice.

However, not everyone in that small Indiana community was appreciative of King’s peace message, as he was emphatically against the Vietnam War: “…our national administration is more concerned about winning an ill-considered war in Vietnam than about winning the war against poverty right here at home. I raise my voice against that war because I have seen what it has done to our nation…It has diverted attention from civil rights.” Our college president received hate mail, but today King is commemorated on campus with a bronze bust of him near the location of his speech.

Manchester celebrates the 75^th anniversary of their Peace Studies Institute and Program for Conflict Resolution in 2023, the oldest undergraduate peace studies curriculum in the world. Originally a college for theology students, Manchester has religious roots in the Church of the Brethren, one of the historic churches devoted to peace.

• A take-away lesson from MLK was echoed by his son, Martin Luther King, III, upon the unveiling of the giant-arms sculpture: “…we must learn nonviolence, or we will cease to exist.”
• MLK believed in “…the sacredness of human personality…human life is too sacred to be taken on the battlefields of the world.”
• A take-away message from artist Thomas gives pause for thought: “There are so many monuments to victims of war; there are very, very few monuments to love.”

Join me in reaching for pearls of peace.

Pearls of Peace (PoP) Quiz

151. How often do you consider sacredness in another’s personality?     

152. On this MLK Day, how can you embrace peace-making?           

Have you ever found yourself in an awkward position? I have. My latest awkward move was falling off a curb on my first day of a Hawaiian vacation with extended family who live on Oahu. Wearing flipflops, like every other islander, I slid sideways off the edge of a curb and twisted my right foot as I tried to regain my balance. An observer commented, “You sure fell gracefully.” I could have spit venom at that moment, not so much at him, but at myself for harming my wellbeing.

In addition to painfully wayward physical moves, people make wayward social moves. We often lack “social fitness,” a concept well researched by Robert Waldinger, 4^th director, and Marc Schultz, an associate director, of the 85-year Harvard Study of Adult Development (The Good Life: Lessons from the World’s Longest Scientific Study of Happiness). Lives of 724 men (and today including wives and 2000+ children of the men) were tracked regarding their work, home life, and health. Of the original group, men were sophomores at Harvard during World War II; John F. Kennedy was a participant. A second group included teenage boys from Boston’s poorest neighborhoods where their tenement homes did not have hot/cold running water.

Both groups of men showed positive as well as painfully wayward moves over a lifetime; some experienced alcoholism, some climbed the social ladder from bottom-up, while others at the top slid downward. The over-decades results suggest that wealth, fame, and hard work are not main ingredients in generating happiness and wellbeing.

It is troublesome that 80% of Millennials (currently ages 23-41) in a recent survey report that their major goal in life is to become rich; another 50% include fame as their secondary goal.

However, the single most important aspect for longevity and happiness is hiding in our relationships. Wealth and high achievement are no guarantee to make (wo)men healthy and lifestyle-wise. It is exercising social fitness — nurturing close connections — with family and friends that leads to happiness and bodymind health. Good relationships are a brain and mood booster, as well as a potent factor in living a long life. Loneliness is a sad and silent killer.

The number of social connections a person has is not the important ingredient – it is the pearl of high-quality relating that makes a difference. Your social fitness applies to all kinds of relationships, including relatives, romantic partnerships, friendships, coworker connections, memberships in groups, sports bonding, book clubs and committees. There is no timeline for strengthening current relationships or starting new ones. Begin today!

There are 8 billion of us that share our planet. Our collective social fitness seems a bit wayward at this moment. What social fitness skills might we master in 2023?

Let’s steady ourselves, improve our relationships, and get this planet we call home in an upright position.

Pearls of Peace (PoP) Quiz

149. What defines a high-quality relationship in your life?

150. How might you stretch your relating to include more high-quality relating?